On April 24th, 2015 my Dad wrote his first blog
entry documenting his diagnosis and subsequent battle with pancreatic cancer.
On March 4th, 2016, he published what would be the last installment
in a remarkable series of works. My father was an optimistic and data-driven
individual, and the approach with this final installment is an attempt to
service both of these fine qualities he so consistently exemplified in his
daily life.
Four days on the 16th
floor of VGH in Palliative Care don’t hold a candle next to 315 days of
blogging, 52 posts, and 35,000 page views. These numbers, in turn, pale in
comparison to 33 years of marriage, 31 years of fatherhood, and 65 years of an
extraordinary life.
For those of you who have followed
his writing, you already know that Hugh used this blog as a means of catharsis,
a creative therapeutic approach to a daunting situation, and a pragmatic means
to expedite the process of keeping his community informed.
You know that he used
humor to communicate his well-being, once joking that an unforeseen benefit of
chemotherapy was that no bug bite went unpunished -- mosquitoes attempting to
dine and dash succumbed to acute chemo toxicity, never making it past the
perimeter of the patio.
You know that he quickly tired of
explaining the status of his illness and treatment, and that he drew immense
satisfaction by cutting such interactions short with three simple words: read
the blog.
You know what a keen insight these
entries offer into the life, mind, and soul of Hugh Tildesley: film, theater
and book reviews in the Art’s Report, technology discussions in Tesla
Titillations, Rants on topics ranging from Translink to federal elections to water
restriction policies, expressions of his deep affection for The 5 o’clock Club
(which he describes as “a witty, pseudo-intellectual denouement to the day”),
FAQ headings such as “How are you feeling?” and “Do your cats and dog know
you’re sick?”, Trivia like “What do the Beach Boys, Elon Musk and the Wright
Brothers have in common?” (For the answer, you guessed it, read the blog).
You might
even know that his favorite course at Bandon Dunes was Old MacDonald, despite
the unrelenting wind.
What you may not know is the profound strength this
readership gave him. Tens of thousands of page views were more than fodder for
bragging rights, they were a reflection of the support he felt from each and
every one of you… his friends and family, his colleagues and peers, his
students, his patients, and all the people he inspired along the way.
Whether you’ve read the blog or
not, these entries offer a way to feel close to Hugh. I couldn’t adequately
summarize his words, even if I tried, but one quote strikes me as salient enough to
repeat. In describing the fearless Bruins left winger Stan Jonathan, Don Cherry
said something along the lines of, “it’s like ‘tis. When yeah gots a guy like
Jonatan, everybody plays bigger.”
My Dad would want everyone to know that their support was
felt, and to the many people he held dear, he’d say:“I play bigger with these guys at my back.”
A Celebration of the
Life of Hugh Tildesley
Tuesday, March 22nd
4:00pm
Point Grey Golf Club
Love from,
Deborah, Donovan,
Hamish and Catherine Tildesley
Beautifully written. I feel honoured to have been Hugh's friend.
ReplyDeleteMy first best friend 59 years ago, I hope you have your 4 gear Raleigh bicycle up there, if not, maybe I can lend you my old CCM if you wouldn't still laugh at it. Rest in peace Hughsy and my love to your family.Billy from Rosemere
ReplyDeleteHugh was there for me at the worst moment of my life and I will always love all of you for the humour and love you all showed me. Sending you all love and healing.
ReplyDeleteGood bye my friend. You will be missed by everyone whoever met you. A true loss and sad day.
ReplyDeleteLove to every one of you. Thanks for keeping me in the circle. Sorry I can't be with you on the 22nd, but my heart is with you, for sure.
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Hugh was a very caring person with a great sense of humour. He will be missed as will his very informative and interesting blog.
ReplyDeleteThank you all for your tremendous support.
ReplyDeleteIn lieu of flowers and gifts, the Tildesleys suggest making a donation to Pancreatic Cancer Canada. Memorial tribute gifts include an option for notifying the honoree's family. Should you wish to include such a notification, please use:
Deborah Tildesley
3970 West 22nd Ave
Vancouver, BC V6S 1K1
www.pancreaticcancercanada.ca/donate
So saddened to hear about Dr Tildesley.
ReplyDeleteHe was a great Dr to me for 18 years. He really listened and cared.
I was just the other day telling someone how great he is, I had no idea he was fighting his own battle. Just learned of his passing and found this blog today.
I will miss our once yearly visit and chat.
Very sorry to his family for their loss.
So sad to hear of Hugh's death. A wonderful friend through medical school. We had great trips through Europe & western Canada. Best man at our wedding. Reading his blog was informative,interesting & funny. A Renaissance man. Condolences to Deborah and the family. Requiresat in pace. Michael & Terry
ReplyDeleteI love your blog. I have also started blogging and would love to share such stuff with readers. The LookBook
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